My Teenage Child is being Bullied at School

It’s devastating for a parent when they find out that their child is being bullied at school. Bullying is on the rise, and many parents feel the school isn’t doing enough to stop it.  
Often, victims are too frightened to tell anyone because they fear it’ll make things worse for them, so it carries on.
When reported, and teachers intervene, problems stop but soon return again, because nothing has actually changed between the children.
Easily, a third of students referred to me, have suffered at the hands of bullies.  Causing feelings of fear and anxiousness, victims can feel alone and helpless to change things.  Such emotions interfere with everything from relationships to the study grades they achieve.

Waking up knowing what the day may hold for them, truancy and school refusal become more attractive,  This is no way to enjoy the teenage years.  It doesn’t serve them well as adults.  So it needs to be addressed before it can ever take hold.

The Pen Really is Mightier Than The Sword

To students who seem unable to escape bullying, I suggest they keep a diary and log every event. It’s commonly used in cases of bullying in the workplace.  This may not sound very appealing.  But often it’s the only choice when someone’s been bullied by their work colleagues or bosses. Such diaries are successfully used to win tribunal cases when workers have been treated unfairly and I’d recommend to any parent that they encourage and support their child in doing this if they need to.

I Tell Students “WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN!”
  • When did it happen.
  • What happened.
  • Who was there.

Writing down details of what they’ve just experienced may not be the first thing they think of doing.  In reality, they may not want to write anything down because of the way it may make them feel.  But it is of the utmost importance to.  I tell them that they must do so, the first chance they get. This is the surest way to bring the bullying to an end.

A bully may be able to fend off accusations when a victim recalls things from memory. But when confronted with a detailed list of dates, times and places describing what took place, it’s difficult for them to successfully lie their way out of things. Such a detailed record of events helps a school take the bullies to task.

*Remember Bullying comes in many forms, none of it is okay. If things escalate and cause physical harm, then it is an assault.  In which case, report it to the school immediately.

 

For Verbal Bullying, A Strategy NOW

“Sticks and stones may break my bones. But words will never harm me”.  Variations of this old adage have been around for quite a while.  And whilst it has elements of turning the other cheek and seem to be in line with advice such as “Just try and ignore it”, it holds little value.

Verbal bullying is common in the schools and it is a hard thing to effectively crack down on.  If it crosses boundaries such as race, sexuality and religion, then the school can tackle it.  But there’s a lot of bullying that doesn’t cross such lines and to some, it may even appear petty.  As petty as it may be considered by someone not experiencing it, the daily onslaught of verbal crap experienced by a victim slowly grinds them down.  For situations such as this, a solution is needed now.

Drawing from the Gestalt model, I devised and created a technique which I have successfully used for over ten years now.  It is simple, it is effective and the students who use it feel empowered and have shared it with friends.  My adult clients who have suffered bullying in the work environment have also used this technique and have found it equally effective.

For parents wanting to empower their child or perhaps for adults in the workplace, I’ve written my simple yet effective technique as a standalone blog because I do not want the structure and direct instructions of the technique drowned by noise from the many and complex issues within the subject of bullying. 

If you want to learn this simple and effective technique which you can learn and use right now, you will find it here…

If there’s anything in this blog that you relate to and want help with, I have developed a 10-week programme called the “POSITIVE PARENTING A TEEN” Programme. This is a one-to-one programme which is designed to help parents increase their knowledge, skills and confidence. A programme that empowers parents to better manage and reduce emotional and behavioural issues, that are affecting the home without the need for additional outside support.

To know more of what our programme consists of and how it can help, you can download your free copy of our brochure here.

If you’d like an initial consultation regarding our programme, you can make an appointment using the booking calendar here.

The one hour consultation fee of £60 will be deducted if you invest in our programme

For information on Individual Counselling Sessions click here.

My Teenage Child is being Bullied at School

It’s devastating for a parent when they find out that their child is being bullied at school. Bullying is on the rise, and many parents feel the school isn’t doing enough to stop it.  
Often, victims are too frightened to tell anyone because they fear it’ll make things worse for them, so it carries on.
When reported, and teachers intervene, problems stop but soon return again, because nothing has actually changed between the children.
Easily, a third of students referred to me, have suffered at the hands of bullies.  Causing feelings of fear and anxiousness, victims can feel alone and helpless to change things.  Such emotions interfere with everything from relationships to the study grades they achieve.

Waking up knowing what the day may hold for them, truancy and school refusal become more attractive,  This is no way to enjoy the teenage years.  It doesn’t serve them well as adults.  So it needs to be addressed before it can ever take hold.

The Pen Really is Mightier Than The Sword

To students who seem unable to escape bullying, I suggest they keep a diary and log every event. It’s commonly used in cases of bullying in the workplace.  This may not sound very appealing.  But often it’s the only choice when someone’s been bullied by their work colleagues or bosses. Such diaries are successfully used to win tribunal cases when workers have been treated unfairly and I’d recommend to any parent that they encourage and support their child in doing this if they need to.

I Tell Students “WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN!”
  • When did it happen.
  • What happened.
  • Who was there.

Writing down details of what they’ve just experienced may not be the first thing they think of doing.  In reality, they may not want to write anything down because of the way it may make them feel.  But it is of the utmost importance to.  I tell them that they must do so, the first chance they get. This is the surest way to bring the bullying to an end.

A bully may be able to fend off accusations when a victim recalls things from memory. But when confronted with a detailed list of dates, times and places describing what took place, it’s difficult for them to successfully lie their way out of things. Such a detailed record of events helps a school take the bullies to task.

*Remember Bullying comes in many forms.  None of it is okay. If things escalate and cause physical harm, then it is an assault.  In which case, report it to the school immediately.

For Verbal Bullying, A Strategy NOW

“Sticks and stones may break my bones. But words will never harm me”.  Variations of this old adage have been around for quite a while.  And whilst it has elements of turning the other cheek and seem to be in line with advice such as “Just try and ignore it”, it holds little value.

Verbal bullying is common in the schools and it is a hard thing to effectively crack down on.  If it crosses boundaries such as race, sexuality and religion, then the school can tackle it.  But there’s a lot of bullying that doesn’t cross such lines and to some, it may even appear petty.  As petty as it may be considered by someone not experiencing it, the daily onslaught of verbal crap experienced by a victim slowly grinds them down.  For situations such as this, a solution is needed now.

Drawing from the Gestalt model, I devised and created a technique which I have successfully used for over ten years now.  It is simple, it is effective and the students who use it feel empowered and have shared it with friends.  My adult clients who have suffered bullying in the work environment have also used this technique and have found it equally effective.

For parents wanting to empower their child or perhaps for adults in the workplace, I’ve written my simple yet effective technique as a standalone blog because I do not want the structure and direct instructions of the technique drowned by noise from the many and complex issues within the subject of bullying. 

If you want to learn this simple and effective technique which you can learn and use right now, you will find it here…

If there’s anything in this blog that you relate to and want help with, I have developed a 10-week programme called the “POSITIVE PARENTING A TEEN” Programme. This is a one-to-one programme which is designed to help parents increase their knowledge, skills and confidence. A programme that empowers parents to better manage and reduce emotional and behavioural issues, that are affecting the home without the need for additional outside support.

To know more of what our programme consists of and how it can help, you can download your free copy of our brochure here.

If you’d like an initial consultation regarding our programme, you can make an appointment using the booking calendar here.

The one hour consultation fee of £147 will be deducted if you invest in our programme

For information on Individual Counselling Sessions click here.